The “over thinker”

I quote the words “over thinker” because no one likes that name. Many of us do in fact “over think”. But what does that really mean anyway?

Clearing your mind before going into deep thought can help with this “over thinking” process. Think about what is actually happening, not what you think might happen. Easier said than done, I know. Take a step back, breathe in deep through your nose and out through your mouth. Think about what’s really happening here. What facts do you have? Are the thoughts you are thinking about your own or influenced by another? What is best for you?

When we “over think” we tend to think about our past. We dwell on things that previously happened which influences our current thought process. Try not to think about what happened 3 years ago. Try to think about what is happening right now. We start thinking about things we have no control over and that’s when the “over thinking” starts.

Let’s think about what we do have control over. What can we actually change. If you change it, will it make things better or worse? Is there a problem you are trying to solve? What are some possible solutions we can come up with based on solid facts?

When I find myself “over thinking” I find something to keep my mind busy. I’m a reader, so I do not mind getting lost in a good book. If I was thinking about something that bothered me, I would go back to that thought after I cleared my mind of everything else. Why does this bother me? How do I really feel?

The truth is, there is no right or wrong way to think. Everyone has their own thought process. When you see someone “over thinking” help them out. You could ask, what do you KNOW about it? How do you FEEL about it? Is there something you could do to change the outcome? Let them vent to you their thought process. Help them navigate to what is actually happening. Help them take control of their thoughts.

Sometimes, we need someone to vocalize our thoughts to. Our thoughts may sound good in our heads but when we actually hear what we have been thinking, it helps clarify the thoughts.

If you could help someone, help them. Offer to listen to them. We all need a little reassurance sometimes. What makes over thinking more critical in my opinion, is when you feel you have no one but yourself to think with. 2 heads are better than 1.

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