I took this photo right before I got lost in thought. The sky was so beautiful, I could not look away. I felt free. My thoughts began to wander as I looked up at the endless sky.
I started to think about change. You see, a lot of us fear change. We fear different. We fear new. We all have a comfort zone. A zone where we feel safe. The zone where we know everything.
Here’s a quote I’ve come across and I would always think about when I get anxious about starting something new.
“Comfort and the fear of change are the greatest enemies of success.”
100% truth. We need change in order to grow. To expand our horizons. To be better. To be successful we have to get out our comfort zones and see what we can actually do.
Test our limits. You see that supervisor position available? You’ve learned the ropes. You know you have what it takes to lead. Go for it! You are in control of your life! Don’t let fear of change hold you back from endless possibilities. Grow, flourish.
Ask yourself “What am I afraid of?” Think of the right now (present). Not what can happen down the road or what previously happened. Think about what’s right in front of you. How bad do you want it?
Fear of change is one of the most common fears. If you fear change, you are not alone. I speak from experience with this fear. If you just allow yourself that one moment. That one moment to really dig deep and find that strength. You will find it. Let that strength speak louder than that fear. When fear clouds your mind with “whys” let the strength speak louder with “why not?”
You are in control of your life. You make your decisions. The unknown will always be there. Will you embrace it with open arms? Pick your head up. Chin held high. Feet firmly planted on the ground. Eyes alert and ready to focus.
I was happy before I met you. Not a care in the world. Like a kid in the candy store. A happy little girl.
I was happy before I met you. Was able to breathe freely. No second thoughts for all my actions. I was able to think clearly.
I was happy before I met you. Until I started to feel your weight. Every thought inside my head Was second guessed like a debate.
I was happy before I met you. Anxiety, can't you just go away? I'm screaming for you to leave. You're screaming back you're here to stay.
I'm tired of all this darkness. Everyday seems like every night. Tear stains on my pillow. From constant feelings of stage freight.
My head is constantly spinning. I don't know what to do. The only happiness that I remember. Is the happiness I felt before I met You.
I suffered with anxiety for many years. I was so hung up on “being independent” and “being okay” that I totally ignored my mind’s cry for help. During the course of building that “new me” I learned a lot about myself. I learned that I am way stronger than I actually felt. I learned that it’s okay not to be okay. I learned that I am not the only person in this world that feels this way.
This is the reason I started this blog in the first place. To show there is hope. That you can move forward even if you feel like you can’t. To motivate. To inspire. Move one foot forward. Then the other. Right foot. Left foot. Right foot. Left foot. When you turn around and see that you moved, that’s called progress my friend. Give yourself that. Allow yourself to see your progress and accomplishments. One step today could be two steps tomorrow.
This is all based on my own personal experience. My experience that I decided to share with you. A few words of motivation. GIVE IT YOUR BEST SHOT! BE YOUR OWN CHEERLEADER! KEEP GOING! NEVER GIVE UP!
Having so much to get done in a certain time frame can be very overwhelming. The thought alone is overwhelming.
Scenerio here will be work related. You walk into the office, your boss stops you before you even get to put your coffee down let alone take off your jacket. Your boss informs you of the 5 things you need to get done before noon. It’s 8am now. You’re thinking “Is this for real?” You tell your boss you’ll get it done then you proceed with your normal “start your work day routine”. BREATHE
You sign on to your desktop. Pull up your email. Another set of tasks assigned to you. Needs to be completed by end of day. You already feel yourself getting flustered and you haven’t even started anything yet. BREATHE.
As you start to work on the first task your boss assigned to you, a co worker comes in and says to you, “Hey, can you send that email out for the supplies. We are totally out.” BREATHE.
By now you are just over it. You feel you don’t even know where to start. You start going through all your assigned tasks in your head and your face gets hot. Your heart palpitates. BREATHE. STEP BACK. BREATHE. THINK. BREATHE. ORGANIZE. BREATHE.
Try thinking about the urgency of the tasks assigned to you. How long does each task take? When does the task need to be completed by? Prioritize your tasks. Above all BREATHE.
The email for supplies that your co worker asked you to do, do you have a template for it? Can that be completed within the next 15 minutes. What supplies are needed? Does it have to be done right now? Will your job, your co workers job or the office as a whole be affected if this email is not sent out now? The tasks your boss asked you to complete, needs to be completed by noon. How long does each task take? Roughly. Can the supply email be completed first and you still have time for the boss tasks? The tasks assigned to you via email needs to be completed by end of day, can it be started after the supply email and your boss tasks? What exactly are you being asked to do?
When so much is thrown at us at one time, it can become so overwhelming that we can’t even begin to process our thoughts. BREATHE. TAKE A STEP BACK. BREATHE. THINK. Think of each individual thing as an individual thing. Understand and process each aspect. Each thought. May it be a task. A thought. Individualize then prioritize.
Many of the events that we encounter throughout our lives impact the way we view things. Our upbringing impacts the way we view things. Where we live. How we live. It’s called Perception. The perception process begins with the stimuli received from our environment. It ends with our interpretation or understanding of that stimuli. Our emotions, mood, attitude and motive all influence our perception or understanding of something.
What goes through your mind when you smell fresh popped popcorn? With the buttery scent going up your nose? I first think of the movie theaters. Majority of the time when I eat popcorn it is at the movie theaters. So with that experience, that is how I perceive that popcorn scent (stimuli). For someone who is not familiar with the movie theaters, they may not have the same perception of popcorn.
It’s okay to see the world or understand the world differently than other people. That’s what makes us all unique. We all come from many different backgrounds. Many different countries, cities, islands and communities. All those differences influence our perception. It’s no wonder why the world is so diverse.
You know when you are mid task, right in the middle of getting something done, your motivation just drifts off. You realize, “wow this is harder than I thought.” You begin to think of reasons not to keep going. I can give you ONE reason to keep going. REMEMBER WHY YOU STARTED! May it be you started to clean the house and got tired mid way. Want to stop? NO REMEMBER WHY YOU STARTED! You wanted a clean house! Push through that tiredness. When all is said and done and you take that shower. When you go sit in that clean living room, kick your feet up then look around. THIS! This is why you kept going! The thought of a clean house is what gave you the motivation to get up and clean in the first place. Of all the thoughts and things to do, a clean house was your clearest thought in which you took intiative to take action upon! The house is clean right? How satisfying does it feel? YOU DID THAT! Now the next time you feel you need to clean the house, you can think to yourself “I did it once before, I can do it again!”
The clean house snippet was just a scenrio to help you visualize. Remembering why you started is one of the ways that can help keep you motivated when you started to get something done. May it be completing school, saving for that new car, working extra hard for that promotion…. Just always REMEMBER WHY YOU STARTED!
As I sit here in the laundromat, with no one around (literally just the owner of the laundromat is here) my mind begins to wander. I can’t seem to remember what life was like pre-covid. Wearing masks and face coverings has literally become the new way of living. Can’t go into a store without one. “No mask, No service” is posted on every business door. Before I walk out my house I think to myself, “cell phone, keys, wallet, MASK. Can’t forget my mask! I can’t get my head wrapped around the fact that this is actually happening.
How has Covid changed your life? Your way of living? Have you adapted to this new normal?
“When you reach for the stars, you are reaching for the farthest thing out there. When you reach deep into yourself, it is the same thing, but in opposite direction. If you reach in both directions, you will have spanned the universe.”
A lot of times I start my day with being annoyed. Annoyed by what?Annoyed with who? No one really. Maybe I just woke up on the wrong side of the bed.
What if I woke up and stared at the ceiling for a few and say to myself “today is going to be a good day?” Would that change how I would go about my day? From my own personal experience, it does. When starting the day with a positive attitude it makes the day go by smoother. I embrace all the smiles and good mornings as I walk down the street. I respond to those text messages received over night. I feel happy. I am in control of my feelings. What happened yesterday is yesterday’s news. What can I do better today? How can I be better be better today?
It may sound silly but a lot of frustration stems from how we will view our day from the moment we wake up. Tell yourself, I will have a good day. Get up, take a shower, brush your teeth. Look at yourself in the mirror and remind yourself how awesome you are. How fierce you are. Tell yourself “today is going to be a good day.
Start your day with good energy. Good vibes. The way you take on any problems will come from how you view it. Approach a problem for exactly what it is. Think logically for a solution. Think positive!
This is my first blog post. It is not full of all my thoughts and inspirations. I am learning. I am all for feedback and how I can make my posts better. Feel free to fill out the feedback form or go to contact and send me an email. What would you like to read about?
I quote the words “over thinker” because no one likes that name. Many of us do in fact “over think”. But what does that really mean anyway?
Clearing your mind before going into deep thought can help with this “over thinking” process. Think about what is actually happening, not what you think might happen. Easier said than done, I know. Take a step back, breathe in deep through your nose and out through your mouth. Think about what’s really happening here. What facts do you have? Are the thoughts you are thinking about your own or influenced by another? What is best for you?
When we “over think” we tend to think about our past. We dwell on things that previously happened which influences our current thought process. Try not to think about what happened 3 years ago. Try to think about what is happening right now. We start thinking about things we have no control over and that’s when the “over thinking” starts.
Let’s think about what we do have control over. What can we actually change. If you change it, will it make things better or worse? Is there a problem you are trying to solve? What are some possible solutions we can come up with based on solid facts?
When I find myself “over thinking” I find something to keep my mind busy. I’m a reader, so I do not mind getting lost in a good book. If I was thinking about something that bothered me, I would go back to that thought after I cleared my mind of everything else. Why does this bother me? How do I really feel?
The truth is, there is no right or wrong way to think. Everyone has their own thought process. When you see someone “over thinking” help them out. You could ask, what do you KNOW about it? How do you FEEL about it? Is there something you could do to change the outcome? Let them vent to you their thought process. Help them navigate to what is actually happening. Help them take control of their thoughts.
Sometimes, we need someone to vocalize our thoughts to. Our thoughts may sound good in our heads but when we actually hear what we have been thinking, it helps clarify the thoughts.
If you could help someone, help them. Offer to listen to them. We all need a little reassurance sometimes. What makes over thinking more critical in my opinion, is when you feel you have no one but yourself to think with. 2 heads are better than 1.